The word community is being tossed around a lot now and I want us all to be clear about the "communities" being built. The way y'all paid White women 10k to be in an exclusive "community" that gave nothing in return, while a lot of us are out here struggling, still stings til this day.

I see a lot of other disabled creators push out content daily and sometimes I feel as if I'm not doing enough. This along with the way disability is measured, "rewarded" and scrutinized makes it sometimes difficult for me to be honest about my needs and how my disabilities affect me. 

When White women used to attempt to connect with me they'd always share about their "purple house". They'd say even though they and their partners had extremely differing views on "politics" and humanity as a whole that they still had a loving household.

I haven't gotten my hair "done" in years and I completely forgot how differently people treat you. Random White women complimenting my hair was all the push I needed to bring it up in my next therapy session.

During the summer of 2020 I worked at a nonprofit with a leadership team comprised of all older White women. At meetings they would encourage us to read Brené Brown's Dare to Lead, a book which they had purchased several copies of and disbursed throughout the office. I would end up leaving the role after repeatedly being met with racism, homophobia, ableism and anti-Blackness. 

Abuse on several levels can cause irreversible harm.

Recently I posted that DEI is in fact dead. The lack of upcoming Black History month engagements for the 3rd year in a row, visibly by organizations who swore up and down they were not being "performative" is all the validation I needed. 

With multiple genocides occurring worldwide and many of us seeing firsthand how the media is corruptly covering it all, it has become clearer the power we all have by simply speaking. They know this and are afraid. They know this and are doing everything they can to get us to laugh instead of demand they listen.

You can't revive something that was always meant to be taken out back and shot at the first hiccup.

This continues to happen and unfortunately some melanated White people are surprised when their proximity to violent Whiteness gets them harmed as well. They enter violent White spaces using the same mannerisms and words believing that’s enough to keep them from being harmed from the same violent systems, beliefs, and actions. The truth is it will never be.

The announcement of Dr. Claudine Gay's resignation from Harvard reminds me of the amazing interview I had with Dr. Janice Asare Gassam where she authentically shared she got her PHD to "move closer to Whiteness".

There are very few things I can count on in this world but the harmful behavior of White women is one of them.

Robin and K discussed how much poverty sucks and how capitalism keeps us in survival mode, far from thriving.

The centering of Whiteness, White experiences and White feelings is excruciatingly apparent in those books. Thinness is mentioned often throughout the pieces along with the tying of monetary hoarding to success. There’s absolutely no mention of race, sexual orientation, gender beyond the binary or life outside of marriage, motherhood, business and?

In my work on psychological safety, I constantly note the needed foundations for safe relationships: trust, honesty, respect and the prioritization of safety throughout. They are all intertwined and it is almost impossible to have one without the other. Yet we see these seemingly basic human needs being dismissed by people in positions of power daily.

This article on how the Holocaust is being weaponized to justify the suffering of others is a glaring example of what happens when we don’t acknowledge and heal from harm that’s been caused to us and our communities. Similar to the way Black communities globally have had our healing excruciatingly prolonged because of re-written history that refuses any true acknowledgement of the atrocities our ancestors experienced or that we continue to experience. In my piece I Want a White History Month, I write about this large gaping hole left in White people that they attempt to fill with appropriation, deceit and more recently the support of genocide. All these uncared for wounds are bound to be internalized or spread to others.

While people in Ukraine were met with "they look like us", I cannot help but notice that even though some Palestinians look like Europeans they are not receiving the same messages.

Since the summer of 2020, it has been more apparent than ever that White people will weaponize anything they can to cling to Whiteness, including Blackness.

Queerness and Transness make me nostalgic often. I shared recently how Janelle Monae was the most amazing person I ever saw back in 2010 and continues to make me feel seen. I also shared in an interview how the extremely problematic show a Shot of Love with Tila Tequila was the first time I learned the word bisexual and felt like I could finally articulate who I was.